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Open the door and let someone in

So I have clearly been absent recently on the blog but I’ve been doing this amazing thing called living. Just enjoying the moments as they are happening and not trying to think so much about the future.

Today however, I find myself getting way to much into my own head. I am over-analyzing my newly budding relationship and thinking about the past relationships I’ve been in. I am comparing and zeroing in on what I seem to consider flaws and trying to understand which relationship is the “right” one. I know this is completely silly because I can’t know how things will work out in the end, but I keep trying to categorize this relationship so I can put it into its own tidy, little box.

I guess the not-knowing aspect is what is really scaring me, but I sense myself pushing the limits to see what I can get away with, in a way.

After getting some really good insight from my therapist, I think the biggest issue I’m having is that I don’t want anyone to have to take care of me. I am incredibly independent and pretty driven, and I feel like doing anything less than everything makes me weak. But, one of the most fundamental parts of being in a relationship is being able to let someone else take care of you, and them allowing you to reciprocate. I’m afraid of being vulnerable and letting anyone else in because I’m scared they might not like everything they end up finding out. I don’t want to take the easy way out and sabotage myself before I even have a chance to experience what a really good relationship could be. I want to really take a leap of faith and risk a negative outcome because otherwise I won’t ever know how amazing the positive outcome could be.

Love,
Happiness Starts Here

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Breathe it all out

Today I’m feeling a bit down in the dumps. As I’d previously mentioned here, I’ve gained a bit of weight since beginning my journey through recovery and finding out about intuitive eating. However, it’s been difficult for me to accept my body with this additional weight. Although I know some of it is healthy, I feel like I am bigger now than I’m happy with, and not in an exaggerated way. I am trying to love my body as it is, but I also think that I can be more mindful about what I need to eat and what will nourish me.

I’ve also been spending considerably less time at the gym because of the cold, but I think I’ve been kind of using that as an excuse. I’ve decided I really want to get back into running but strength training is really important to me too, so starting tomorrow I’m not giving myself excuses anymore. I love sweating and working out, and I am glad I took a bit of a break from hardcore workouts for about a week and a half, but I know it’s time for me to get back to doing what I know feels good for me and what will truly make me happy.

So on this Sunday, I’m going to breathe through this negativity I’ve been feeling and exhale it all out. I’m continuing to learn about my body and myself, and I know to feel my best I need to kick myself in the pants to get back to business. I’m not allowing myself to be lazy about my singing anymore, so I’m going to spread the motivation throughout my life and get moving! 🙂 Here’s to a great new start on Monday!!

Love,
Happiness Starts Here

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Improv Singing?

Today I’m happy about: feeling much more positive about my singing and performing. I had an acting class this afternoon in which we improvised on monologues we had learned, but by singing them! Although I was initially terrified about how the improv would go, I knew that everyone surrounding me wanted me to succeed just as much as I wanted them to succeed. So I went for it and tried to throw myself into the exercise and really ended up having a blast! I absolutely love performing, and I really needed that reminder today and I am so thankful to have been given the opportunity to remember it.

Happy Monday loves!

Love,
Happiness Starts Here

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Silence the voice that’s keeping you down

Today I’m happy about: not giving in to my inner voice’s negativity. I had planned to workout this morning but just didn’t feel like leaving my cozy bed. I had a nagging guilt that followed me all morning because I didn’t go, even though I was listening to my body.
Since I began my journey into intuitive eating over the past 3 weeks, I have felt much freer and was able to let go of a lot of my self-imposed rules. However, this has also caused my body to change in reaction to this, and although I know it’s for the best, and I am feeling stronger than ever during my workouts, I am worried that I am ballooning up and gaining too much weight.
The reality is that I probably haven’t gained more than a few pounds, and it’s just my body’s way of adjusting to being fed what it craves rather than being constantly deprived. But even though I know these changes are all for the good, the part of me that has relied on control for so long, is having trouble letting go.

Although this was a challenging day, I am really happy I didn’t give in to these feelings, and still enjoyed a day of delicious and nutritious meals, without worrying about how much I should or shouldn’t have.

I hope your week is off to a great start!

Love,
Happiness Starts Here

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Hi! It’s me!

Today I’m happy about: feeling like myself again! Dealing with depression and anxiety takes it’s toll not only on you but on the people surrounding you who love and care about you. Although I know change doesn’t happen overnight, I am so grateful to finally be on a path to improvement. The air feels fresher when I walk outside, the work I have to do feels less difficult, and I am re-discovering my passion for music and learning in a way I had not felt for a while. Not to sound like a cheesy infomercial on late-night TV, but I really feel like I’m living again after having been in a dark cloud for a long time.

I hope you are all having a beautiful and enjoyable Friday!

Love,
Happiness Starts Here

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